Getting down and dirty makes everyone blush a little and talking about it is no better.
Talking about sex makes everyone uncomfortable and sometimes it even makes some people mad.
However, the only way to make sure people are having safe and good sex is to have a conversation about it. When we talk about sex with our friends, read “trashy” magazines or have an open conversations with our partners, we are all adding to the narrative that sex is a good, powerful thing. Empowering yourself through sex helps you show dominance in everyday situations, not just the bedroom.
The first step to being powerful, is being knowledgeable. I am not just talking about where babies come from, but learning what other consequences sex may have. Learning how to protect yourself is one of the most empowering things you can do. Condoms help prevent sexually transmitted infections and even pregnancy, but making sure you know how to correctly use them is extremely important in their effectiveness. Whether you have a technical question or just want to know about someone else’s personal experiences, having a conversation about intercourse can be awkward. If you have questions, do not be afraid to ask someone you trust or do some research. The more you learn, the better you are at making the right choices when having sex.
As much of a fuss that we make about sex, we almost forget that it is natural. All living things have sex, so why do some people see our natural impulses as bad things? Attraction and sexual urges are something that you should embrace, explore. No one should make you feel ashamed for anything done between consenting adults. Just because society has put a stigmatism on somethings, does not mean that it is wrong. If you feel guilty or ashamed of your sexual desires, remember that there is nothing wrong with you.
Another way to empower yourself is to take ownership over your body and maintain it. Any sexual or physical act should be your choice. If you feel pressure to perform a sexual act, you do not have to do it. Plain and simple. You have the right to stop any situation that makes you uncomfortable, no matter what you have previously said or done.
Sex is different for everyone and everyone has a variety of opinions about it. However, being empowered by sex does not mean you have to sleep with multiple people or take on a dominant role in the bedroom. It simply gives you the power to make your own choices about sex and your body.